LIFE IN TRANSITION

Rhaea Goff
Jan 28
3 min read

Even when the plan is solid, even when the job is perfect, even when everything looks good on paper, you can still feel the weight of intrusive thoughts, worry, and self-doubt.

Transitions — whether planned or unplanned — almost always come with a level of uncertainty. Did I make the right decision? Why does everything feel like it’s falling apart instead of coming together? Is it too late to make a U-turn and go back?

Been there? Same.

When I moved to the DMV six years ago, I was both excited and anxious. I knew challenges would come, so I tried to stay ahead of them. I scheduled meetups, found a gym similar to the one I loved back home, and lined up events for the first 60 days.

And for those first 60 days, everything seemed fine.

But on Day 61, things shifted. I started to feel off-balance, unsettled. I found myself searching for anything that felt familiar, anything that could bring me a sense of normalcy. Without even realizing it, I began recreating the life I had just left behind — because it was comfortable.

I was comfortable in the mess…Yet I knew that season had already ended.

The truth is, there’s a certain discomfort that always comes with transition — even when the plan is solid, even when the job is perfect, even when everything looks good on paper.

You can still feel the weight of intrusive thoughts, worry, and self-doubt. You can still second-guess yourself. You might even wonder if you've made a huge mistake.

So what can we do?

Whether it's a move, a job change, or a shift in relationship status — from single to married, or married to single — the emotional strategy is often the same:

Allow yourself to feel the feels.

You’ve just stepped into a new chapter. On one hand, it’s an adventure. On the other hand, it might feel like all hell is breaking loose. That discomfort? It’s not always a sign that something’s wrong. It’s often a sign that you’re becoming unrooted — and that your body, mind, and spirit are seeking new ground.

Create small rhythms that anchor you.

In seasons of transition, routines become lifelines. Start small — a morning walk, a few minutes of journaling, a weekly check-in with someone who “gets it.”These aren’t just habits. They’re reminders that you still have agency, even when life feels unpredictable.

Normalize the messy middle.

There’s nothing wrong with being in between. It’s not failure. It’s not going backward. It’s just the hallway between two rooms — uncomfortable, uncertain, but necessary.

This space gives you a chance to meet yourself again — to pause, question, and listen in a way you couldn't before.

Reflect on what this season is here to teach you.

Transitions often bring clarity — not always immediately, but over time. Some parts of you are shedding. Others are growing, evolving.

Ask yourself:

What am I learning about myself in this season?
What beliefs or habits is this chapter inviting me to release?
What is this moment revealing that I couldn’t see before?

Until next time ...

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